Primary

In the polyamory lovestyle, some people have chosen to give their multiple romantic interests titles, such as primary, secondary & tertiary.  The primary is usually the partner that you have the deeper history or perhaps the one you live with, such as your wife.  The others are "girlfriends".

I do not follow this philosophy.  To be a primary partner is the person you are most focused on at any particular moment.  They are the most important.  They are whom all your time & energy is connected.  Therefore, when you visit me, you become my primary partner.  When you stand before me, you are the most important thing in my world.