Show Me The Money!

I’d think many would consider it a taboo to flash their genitals at someone, but many celebrities have been having “exposure accidents”, shall we say. The scene here from “Basic Instinct” seemed to have started the trend 20 years ago. The infamous leg crossing and uncrossing scene was parodied many times over the years.

In recent times, celebs like Paris Hilton and Britney Spears have “flashed” the photographers, supposedly by accident, while getting out of cars, wearing short skirts and, opps, no panties. Do you really think those girls forgot they were not wearing any underwear?  Um, I’m guessing not.   More like, “Gee, great photo op and a way to get my name in the news again.” That sounds a bit more realistic to me.

Many have also been showing the nipple, during “nipple slips”, that had falling down dress straps. Is it really to much to ask for someone to remember to put on her underwear? But then they did it on purpose, so that’s the entire point.  Skip the underwear.

It’s kind of sad that one has to resort to flashing their crotch to be the only way to get attention, but that seems to be the mindset of a lot of young celebrities today. Do you think stars, the real stars of say 50 years ago, would have had to resort to such tacky tactics? Not on your life. More like their coveted studio contacts would have been cancelled, due to breaking the “moral clause”.

Work It Baby!

Horniness can creep up at the most inconvenient times, even at work. I talk to guys calling from work, jerking off under their desk, in their office. One even told me he jerked off in an office full of people under his desk, being discreet and came into his waste paper basket. That takes some courage, or stupidity, maybe a bit of both.

Office shenanigans are nothing new.  Women have been chased around their desks since women started to work in offices. After hours has often meant play time for co workers.  The thought of acting inappropriately at work holds appeal for many. The thought of getting caught adds to the thrill and excitement. The thought of their boss finding out and their job being at stake heightens the entire affair.

Familiarity can make for strange bedfellows, and often ones we would never look at in our real lives.  The constant proximity makes us more comfortable with them and leads us to think of them in ways we ordinarily would not.

Work place rendezvous are not just for co workers either. How many clients have gotten involved with their lawyers and others they have hired?  Work place is often be the only place we meet others. Many people simply go to work and home and that’s pretty much it, so it’s our only contact with other people. Workplace romances are sometimes the only chance we will have.

Some companies have rules against co workers getting involved, but it doesn’t stop it.  It can often make it more appealing, since it’s forbidden and just drives it underground.

I Love You, Mommy

The mother son incest fantasy is very popular. Much more than I ever imagined, when I started doing phone sex. I expected some, sure, but I also expected the equal amount of men desiring fantasy talk about their daughters. Wrong. I think I could easily count on the fingers of two hands the number of men that wanted that daughter fantasy. The ones wanting to talk about mommy, I cannot even count.

I’m not sure why it is so prevalent. Boy, is it ever popular. Mommy is the first woman they ever loved, and so many are not quite able to switch it over to the right kind of love. When I get younger guys on the phone and they realize I’m older than them, they often fall into mommy mode. Some are even into their grandmas, but that has been much less frequent, in my experience.

Many did things as they were sexually maturing that seems to have stayed with them, either secretly watching their mom undress or get out of the shower, to taking her panties and sniffing them after they’d been worn all day, to masturbating with said panties, to even spying on her masturbating or having sex.

Never underestimate the number of guys lusting after their moms.  It’s a large number.  Believe me. I think many will never admit to it, since they know their girlfriends and wives would not understand or want to know about their desires, so they fantasize in secret about it.

Booby Trap

To many selling oneself is a taboo, but we all also know that prostitution is the world’s oldest  profession, and with good reason. France has always been a forward thinking country, and I found it amusing when I read about how during the last number of wars it was involved in, there were mobile prostitution units sent out to the front lines for soldiers to find a bit of comfort and relief with.

It seems a sensible thing, really, the poor fellows are stressed and fighting all day, do they not deserve a bit of female companionship to relax with, their lives are on the line! The mobile units were infamous for their spreading of disease though, so I’m guess they were not having safe sex, but the idea is a sensible one in theory.

British officers made it a point to try and visit the same whore’s the German officers did, in the hopes of getting some useful strategic pillow talk, and it did work a number of times. Loose lips really do sink ships.

Whore’s have always followed the men for business, war camps are good place for a whore to set up shop. She will have stressed men that need comforting, not much competition, it makes a lot of sense.
If not for the disease issue, it is a grand idea, as most fighting takes place outside of towns and cities where brothels are normally in operation. Cat houses aren’t known to set up shop in the middle of nowhere, except in Nevada, but that’s a different story.

Incest is Best

One of my phone sex callers has a taboo fantasy he always likes to talk about. He insists that I call him Uncle Larry and that I am his niece, Amber. He loves incest roleplay, since sometimes I play his cousin Cathy that he fooled around with as a teenager. He likes to relive these exciting moments from decades ago even now as he pleasures himself. He loves to talk about all these naughty things.

Incest roleplay is exciting to many callers, they seem to just adore it, mommy and son especially I find. Depending on the company I get calls from, some allow it, some not, but at the ones where it is allowed, I am fine to indulge them in their fantasies. One man not only wants to play with mommy, but with her boyfriend as well. I wonder if perhaps in the past he might have spied on them and masturbated as he did to have such vivid fantasies. One can never know.

Surprisingly there is very little of the daddy and daughter roleplay requested, and I’d have thought that would be popular, but most guys seem to be hung up on mom for some reason. They think about her catching them masturbating and fucking her, spying on her masturbating, in the shower watching from doors cracked open trying to peer through steam covered glass doors etc., and also taking mom’s panties out of the hamper. Plenty of guys are having naughty thoughts about mom and have masturbated to her panties.

Snuff Films

One taboo that is out there is very bad. Snuff films. Ones that actually get off on watching others get killed. Many have said real snuff films are either all faked or urban legends. No one really seems to know 100% for sure. Yes, actual killings have been filmed, as in political kidnapping and murders, but they were not done for profit and distribution like a film, per say, so they do not qualify.

It’s pretty horrifying to think ones could get aroused by such brutality, but after reading all I do about some horrible things to write about, I’m beginning to think that no matter how distasteful or cruel, someone, somewhere will be getting aroused to it and cumming to it.

There are some very sick individuals out there. Ones that have mental disorders and deep psychopathic behaviors that do not think like the average, everyday person.

In the 1970′s, a few supposed snuff films were made in South America, where rules are more lax and officials more corrupt, but it was later discovered they were faked, and even actors hired for fake protests upon their release for hype.

I’m sure somewhere there probably have been some made, but where one goes to actually find them. I couldn’t tell you. Yet the sick thing is, even if human snuff films are just a myth, sadly, there is a whole market of very real animal snuff films and crushing videos out there.

Sometimes when things are captured on live television, deaths are recorded, either with things like race car crashes where the drivers were killed, or speed boat accidents where the drivers were killed, or even horrific events like Sept. 11 where things unfolded on live television and millions saw them as they happened. But these don’t count, as they were not designed for entertainment and profit, they were news events being filmed as they happened.

Secret Desires

Expressing ourselves sexually to our partners can sometimes be a point of stress if what we consider exciting is considered taboo or outside the norm in anyway unless we know our partners share those same interests.

A client I spoke to for hours last week that is heavily into the BDSM scene said his wife has no idea about his secret interest. He has sent me pics of women in cages and hoods and strapped to crosses and wheels and tied up with rope and all sorts of things,a and his wife apparently has no idea about his secret interests. He keeps everything in a rented storage locker and has things in boxes labeled with “Destroy upon death”, to spare her from knowing.

I can’t imagine if I was her going to the said storage locker after his death and not going through each and every box. But that’s just me. And honestly, I would be upset at such a find. So I hope he’s entrusted such a duty to a lawyer or something. They wouldn’t care or likely be curious, but a wife sure would be.

He has had a colorful past with slaves and submissives and this wife apparently is clueless to the entire situation. Makes you wonder how you can live with someone for 20 years and not know what’s really going on with them inside their head. He feels she’s too sensitive a person to be able to deal with the info though, so she’s been kept in the dark all these years. Let’s hope he gets his wish and has things go to the grave with him, but if he wanted to make really sure, he’d dispose of the items before he died.

Oh, God

What many find absolutely blasphemous is a mixture of anything sexual with religion. Ones that have Hierophilia however find it very arousing and are in fact very religious themselves.

A good client of mine was a church Vicar and used to LOVE when I would say Jesus Christ over and over, taking the name in vain. I myself am an agnostic, so saying it didn’t bother me, but to him it was wicked and forbidden to use the term in a sexual conversation.

There actually are baby Jesus butt plugs and ones that really do masturbate with with crucifixes and the like. Ones that get into this fetish often get so worked up during sermons, that the excitement is sometimes transferred to a sexual feeling. There are different types of arousal, and they can get confused for some individuals. The feelings of excitement, anticipation, and exaltation can take on a sexual feeling for some, and they want to experience that arousal and high they do during religious fervor in a sexual sense and seek to either have sex or masturbate in a religious environment like a church, which of course they know is forbidden.

For ones not religious, it is hard to grasp the connection, yet for some it is quite an attraction indeed. Imagine the sexual role plays with the man dressed up as the priest, and the woman dressed up as a Catholic school girl. Using a rosary as anal beads, oh my, all sorts of naughty scenarios can come to mind.

Indian Desires

This next topic I have pondered many times, yet it has been mentioned to me so many times, I know it’s no coincidence.  I have noticed nearly every client I have ever had from India wants to either fuck their mom, their aunt or their sister. It’s seems like a seriously fucked up culture to me in so many ways.

From what I have gathered, young people seem to be under real restrictions and are not allowed to date as they can in many countries. They seem to be in virtual lock down, so the young men are basically only surrounded by their moms, aunts and sisters, so their sexual thoughts seem to turn to them.

It is not like North American culture with the freedoms we experience. I have had many as clients and have chatted with many as well, and it is most of them, so this is not a few isolated examples by any means. I wonder if the mothers, aunts and sisters have any idea how the the son, nephew and brother are so deeply lusting after them as they furtively masturbate in secret, since privacy is also at a real minimum in this culture as well. Door locks are all but unheard of I have learned and they have almost no time to themselves without worry.

What is the matter with people? This cultural lack of privacy, and I know other cultures are like that as well, but it is specifically the ones from India I have so dramatically noticed this lusting after the women in the family. Heaven knows North American culture isn’t perfect, not by a long shot, and I also know plenty of guys here also long for mommy shall we say. But not to the extent the ones from India do.

Masochism

True masochists love to be humiliated or have pain inflicted on them, sometimes by themselves even. Ones would wear a hair shirt to increase their own discomfort. Some men call me while wearing male chastity devices. They want me to arouse them since they know they cannot masturbate since their genitals are under lock and key. Some devices even have spikes or points on the insides so when the wearer becomes aroused they will further dig into their skin causing even more pain and discomfort. Some have even used floggers upon their own backs to inflict more punishment if they are lacking a master or mistress to punish them themselves.

Some masochists like to put themselves in the hands of a master and allow themselves to be collared and led around on a leash like an animal, showing the master their place of submission. To hand over your control to another, to give another control over your orgasm, can be a very exciting experience. To fully submit to another and give up all control, they know you will bend to their will and do as you are told to do. To feel as if total control is in the hands of another. The sense of humiliation at begging to be allowed to cum, begging for their cock. It can be very erotic.

Masturbation

I saw this funny pic online and knew I had to write about how religions, most of them anyway, are dead set against masturbation. The sad thing is, obviously the church that had that sign up was serious about its message that’s on it.

Most religions are still against sex outside of marriage, even when only with yourself. Even though no one is harmed, it is totally devoid of risks of disease, and even though medical Dr.’s recommend masturbation for sexual and physical health.

Men should have a minimum of 21 ejaculations a month for optimum prostate health. Keeps the pipes clean as it were. But the God fearing among us I guess would rather a man go to the grave with cancer, yet a pure heart that kept his body chaste. That is the way the to go according to them. Screw your health, be a good little follower instead. To think ones are against something as natural as sleeping and eating is incredulous in my eyes.

I cannot wrap my mind around such thinking in today’s world. When you think only 100 years ago, small children were being put to bed with their hands bound and wearing chastity devices to avert the evils of masturbation, it’s mind-boggling to be sure.

I can tell you this much, the day I’d be following the teachings of some old pedophile in a bed sheet and a pointy hat, there would be 20 moons in the sky. But this blog is about sex, not religion, so I’ll try and contain myself.

Nudity

Nudity is a taboo in many parts of the world. Think of how here in North America we have the freedom to wear skimpy things if we choose, and in other parts of the world, you would be stoned to death for it.

How women are treated in the Middle East are the worst examples on the planet of covering up. The women have no rights, and have to cover everything. Ones that don’t are arrested by the religious police. We are so lucky to have freedoms here.

Nudity has always been portrayed by artists, and some activities are more suitable nude than clothed, like swimming. It’s the most enjoyable way to swim for sure. In ancient Greece, the Olympic games were performed in the nude. Nudity is not always sexual, but many countries view it that it is, so all skin must be covered. Hence the beekeepers outfits the middle eastern women are forced into.

Yet men are not expected to adhere to the same standards. I will always remember in Disney World a family I saw in the scorching August heat. The husband and son were in shorts and a tee shirt, normally dressed for such a location, yet the wife/mother was in one of the beekeepers outfits and you couldn’t even see her eyes. I was in my teens and never forgot seeing that. The men dressed as everyone else, and her being kept like that. Nudity shouldn’t be punishable, if people want to be nude in areas like beaches, then let them. Not on buses or around kids, but within reason.

I’m Gonna Cut It Off!

Now this next topic is amusing to many a wronged woman, but most men will no doubt cross their legs and gulp with eyes widened. There’s a fair number of cases world wide of women cutting off the penises of their men. One can only assume the women were wronged to do carry out such an act of revenge. You have to hand it to these gals, they are not lacking in creativity.

We all recall 20 years ago The Lorena Bobbit case, but that’s by no means the only one. In Southeast Asia it seems women should not be pissed off, since it happens there world wide more than anywhere else. I recall laughing years ago and even cutting out an article and mailing it to a friend about one such woman who wanted to make sure there were no chances of penis reattachment. She actually tied her husband’s severed penis to a helium filled balloon and sent it into the sky, never to be seen again.

If it is just cut off, the chances of reattachment are fairly high, but sending it into the cool night air via a balloon isn’t the only way women have made sure no repairs were done. One fed it, yes fed it, to the dog, another put it in the garbage disposal and turned it to mush, another flushed it down the toilet,  but plumbers were called and found it and it was reattached in that case. Maybe she should have chopped it up first? But I digress…..They say Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, and it’s easy to believe.

Several have even made a point to drug the husbands beforehand, tie them up, then cut it off. To a woman, when you hear of these cases, you automatically think, “Oh, he was screwing around on her.” So guys, beware if you’re screwing around. Some women will make sure, REAL sure, you won’t be doing it again.

Teach me

It’s considered a bit of a taboo for one to have sex with someone that they have power over. A boss and an employee, a Dr. and a patient, a teacher and a student.

Remember years ago the case of notorious teacher Mary Kay Letourneau who had an affair with her student, had two children with him and then went to jail and ended up marrying him when she got out? Well, not all teacher/student affairs are quite so dramatic or well known about, but they do happen and frequently.

Imagine the forbidden excitement of sneaking around, fucking in the classroom after school, hoping no one would see. Blow jobs under the desk. I used to have a fantasy about going to a teacher to complain about getting a bad grade, and they said they could give me an A, if I was willing to fuck them and suck on their cock in return.

And of course I couldn’t let my parents know I’d gotten a D on an important exam, being the good little girl that I was, so I agreed to fuck the teacher for good grades and was treated like a good little slut in my school uniform and fucked bent over the desk with my plaid, pleated skirt pushed up over my hips. 

Needless to say, I got straight A’s from that teacher, and we never got discovered.

Ghost Fucking

If you think being “taken” against your will is a scary thing, that’s nothing if the one “taking” you is not of this world.  Ones have reported being molested, raped and even made love to by ghosts for hundreds of years. If you believe a person has a soul, then a ghost isn’t really so far fetched, it’s just a soul not currently in a body. Yes, most “move on”, but some are unable to leave the earthly plane they were accustomed to and form attachments to people.

Sometimes these attachments can get physical. Ones are usually very reluctant to mention these sorts of experiences, since most know they will be mocked and disbelieved, so it’s easier just to keep it to yourself, so many cases, likely most, would go unreported.  And if what the spirit is doing is pleasurable, I doubt you would be going around telling anyone and chancing ruining a good thing.

Sometimes the phantom lover is a spouse who suddenly passes away and is unable to leave their spouse behind.  Hollywood has touched on this theme in a few different movies, but sex with spirits wasn’t quite shown. “Ghost” was a popular movie of a man that couldn’t leave his lady behind. There was also a t.v. movie with a cult following with Jane Seymour called “The Haunting Passion”. Very good movie about this very thing.

Drugged Sex

It’s a taboo thing to have sex with someone against their will. I’m not talking violent rape per say, but rather sex where the other person, usually the woman, is drunk, drugged or sleeping.

I have a client that likes to talk about the women getting fucked as they have been drugged. Totally vulnerable and unable to move. Personally, I don’t see why having sex with another person that is as limp as a rag doll and cannot participate is appealing, yet some do. Date rape drugs like rohypnol have been around for a long time, and a girl being passed out is no deterrent for a guy to have sex with you.

It’s kind of sad if they can’t get a willing woman and the only way they can get one is if they are drugged, but that is the case, or it wouldn’t be such a problem.

It’s kind of scary to think that someone would take advantage this way, yet they will, and you’re told to keep track of your drinks when you’re out so ones will not slip something into them that you’re not expecting. What has the world come to that people have no sense of decency.

If one is just sleeping, there’s a high chance they will wake up and protest and possibly escape the assault, but if drugged or drunk, not much chance. You would feel violated, yet not have the memory of what happened. Would be a very upsetting situation to find oneself in for sure.

Up Yours!

One taboo activity that gay and straight people both engage in is fisting. It was considered illegal to even show in porn. The stretching of the vagina and rectum is considered where the pleasure comes from, not so much the moving in and out motions.

It can be a risky activity unless one is gentle and uses lots of lubrication, since the tissues in the areas involved are easily damaged, and special care must be taken. Some people fist themselves during masturbation, thought they have to be fairly thin and flexible to do so. It’s usually done by another person.

There are plenty of sex toys for fisting enthusiasts, that are molded off of real arms. They are big! I couldn’t believe some of the things I saw online, so there is a market for these things, and this is an interest shared by many. Some even use bottles for their fisting fun. You could get plenty stretched out from using a bottle on yourself for sure.

I have found men from England seem to be into this more than North Americans from calls that I have personally taken where they wanted to discuss this topic.

It’s not for everyone, but there are ones that derive enjoyment from fisting. There are many enthusiast sites online for just about every fetish out there, including this one. So get your lube out, not water based lube since it’s quickly absorbed by the body, and maybe some latex gloves and if you dare, explore the fetish of fisting to see if you like how it feels.

Stripping

Some consider stripping a taboo behavior. It has been around since the beginning of the 1900′s as we know it, and centuries before in one way or another, belly dancing as an example of another form of public dancing.

Men are very visual by nature and especially ones that do not have wives or girlfriends, going to a strip club is the only way they will be seeing a live woman in the nude. Live is always better than porn. They can certainly see lots of porn for free online, but a real, live nude moving woman, they may have to go see a dancer at a strip club to have a good look at one.

Most people at that time preached modesty, and it was considered scandalous for ones to be taking their clothes off in public for the sexual entertainment of usually drunk men. Most stripping was done in bars. Burlesque began in music halls, but the nude dancing we know and think of today began in bars, and really began to flourish during the first world war with he randy soldiers that wanted a good time that were far from home.

During the time of the sexual revolution, the stripping became more and more sexual, evolving from mainly topless, to full nude and the invention of the stripper pole took things to a whole new and acrobatic level. Many burlesque dancers were not thin or toned like dancers of today. They were womanly and voluptuous, and would never be able to heft themselves around like the dancers of today do.

Lap dancing is another off shoot that stripping has provided. Private dances and backroom shenanigans have always existed and many strippers do a lot more than strip if the price is right. It’s mainly a cash business and has a lot of shady individuals involved in it, including many times involvement with drugs and organized crime. Many porn stars are also involved as traveling strippers to help build fanbases.

Sluts

To many the sexually liberated woman is considered taboo. How DARE she think and God forbid act like a man? To satisfy her pussy, take lovers and not feel guilty? To be what many consider a slut. A man’s man can bed all the ladies he so desires, but a woman that thinks such a way is labeled a slut, a whore, a fallen woman.

In some countries, she’d be stoned to death for behaving in such a way. I have had two different men tell me I am ruled by my pussy. That when my libido kicks into overdrive, look out.

Many societies despise the sexually liberated woman, they fear her and her desires and appetites. One man told me he adores my appetites. He knows they are great. For food, for booze, for sugar and for sex. I often find greedy for one, greedy for all.

I am a hedonist, I want it all. All things are better for us in moderation of course, but some of us just can’t say no. We don’t want to say no. Being at home with our needy, hungry pussies, their cravings for cock and orgasms, doesn’t make us sluts, it makes us sexual beings in touch with our sexual hungers.

Men are lucky in some ways, their appetites are not looked down on.  After all, boys will be boys.  Right?  Well, why should women’s appetites be controlled and squelched? What bullshit. I love to cum and I should be able to have it, without being called a slut.

Sadism

 

The term sadism comes from a very colorful character in history, the Marquis De Sade. He found great sexual pleasure in hurting and torturing others. Most of his staff would quit due to sexual harassment. He is quite a character to be sure. A prolific writer of pornographic stories, and this was in the 1700′s, imprisoned and committed to insane asylums for his ideas and treatments of others.

Many people today also really get off on sadism. The “S” in BDSM stands for sadism, named after our French bad boy. His relatives were embarrassed for many years to even be associated with such a man.

Some people love inflicting their power over others, power can be a very strong aphrodisiac. If both parties are consenting, that is fine, but this old boy loved to crack the whip on ones not wanting to play, which is abuse. You don’t go around hurting others. Some love to be abused those, they are the ones they should seek out the ones that crave pain and humiliation at the hands of another.

The movie 9 1/2 Weeks is a good cinematic example of an S&M relationship, not with violence though, with mental games and bit of spanking with a riding crop, nothing too severe, but still very much with the man in total control over the relationship. It’s a very erotic movie everyone with an interest in erotic movies should see. It can be very intoxicating to hand the control over to your partner, but you have to trust them to do this. But it can be very sexy indeed.